There is no right and wrong here. Each person is entitled to do what they want, no matter the justification. If you do decide to go on gear :
You will always have side effects, that's just the name of the game. If you do a lot of research to empower yourself to do it as safely as possible, it goes a long way. There is also a very big difference in how "clean" gear can be. The label on the bottle does not mean much as there are often knock-offs. Find a reputable supplier.
A low dosage cycle with a good PCT plan in place is a great way to minimize the side effects and can still net you good results. PEDs do not need to be taken in crazy quantities. Oral PEDs take a very heavy toll on the kidneys and are not worth the minimal gains you get out of them in my experience, your mileage may very.
I've seen guys who have been on heavy gear for decades without serious long term issues. Seen guys die in their twenties from a combination of heavy gear and too fast paced lifestyles. Seen guys who get crazy "roid rage" and seen guys who are not affected by it at all. If you want to try it be responsible about it as far as you can, and keep in mind it might bite you in the ass.